As human beings what holds us back from realizing our dreams? Is it our physical and mental capabilities?
I beg to differ.
I largely believe that everyone on this planet is capable of doing much more than they have accomplished till now. Our mind is a Goliath, something like a Pandora's Box, full of thoughts just waiting to be unleashed. So what holds us back?
It is quite usually our Subconscious Fear.
The fear of failure ("What if I'm unable to do it?"), fear of success ("If I do it, will I be able to do it again or fail miserably the second time?") and ever fear of reprehension ("If I do it, will my friends be jealous of me").
These fears play a large role in our temperament, but not quite positively.
To cure this we just need to try asking ourselves: "What if?." If you want to do something stop dwelling over the 100 ways it might fail, but rather think about how happy you'd be if you are successful. Children learn from the people around them, that the socially accepted way to live life is the correct way.
But think of it this way: Suppose you wanted to color your hair red because you feel it matches your personality, you'd think about how you'd feel odd because no one else you know has red hair.. Even if someone else did dye his/her hair, you'd be put off by the comments passed by everyone else on that person.. Now, imagine you lived in a town where almost everyone has dyed their hair in some odd type of color.. You will not feel out of place and you might even feel a little odd that you haven't already colored you hair..
While this example of mine is rudimentary it is true nevertheless. Social norms aren't necessarily 'right' and might even be insensible sometimes and whether an action is 'good' or 'bad' all depends on the frame of reference. If you want to dye your hair red, DO IT! no second thoughts. Only when we're able to take decisions like these on our own will we be able to unleash our thoughts and that creativity that lies dormant inside.
Only then will we be able to live better!
No one has any power over your thoughts, not even your parents. You as an individual have a right to do whatever you think is a good fit for you. Sure, some advice will help you along the way but you shouldn't let your dreams and ideas be suppressed just because others might not like it. Or else, you'll grow to regret what would've been a great life and will only be left to think about: "What if I had done it?"
The power is in your hands. Are you just going to sit back to let others take it from you?
Take that step, it may just change your life. :-)
"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing." -George Bernard Shaw
Signing off,
Shawn Kenneth Fernandes
I beg to differ.
I largely believe that everyone on this planet is capable of doing much more than they have accomplished till now. Our mind is a Goliath, something like a Pandora's Box, full of thoughts just waiting to be unleashed. So what holds us back?
It is quite usually our Subconscious Fear.
The fear of failure ("What if I'm unable to do it?"), fear of success ("If I do it, will I be able to do it again or fail miserably the second time?") and ever fear of reprehension ("If I do it, will my friends be jealous of me").
These fears play a large role in our temperament, but not quite positively.
To cure this we just need to try asking ourselves: "What if?." If you want to do something stop dwelling over the 100 ways it might fail, but rather think about how happy you'd be if you are successful. Children learn from the people around them, that the socially accepted way to live life is the correct way.
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| Dare to be different! |
While this example of mine is rudimentary it is true nevertheless. Social norms aren't necessarily 'right' and might even be insensible sometimes and whether an action is 'good' or 'bad' all depends on the frame of reference. If you want to dye your hair red, DO IT! no second thoughts. Only when we're able to take decisions like these on our own will we be able to unleash our thoughts and that creativity that lies dormant inside.
Only then will we be able to live better!
No one has any power over your thoughts, not even your parents. You as an individual have a right to do whatever you think is a good fit for you. Sure, some advice will help you along the way but you shouldn't let your dreams and ideas be suppressed just because others might not like it. Or else, you'll grow to regret what would've been a great life and will only be left to think about: "What if I had done it?"
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| It's your choice |
Take that step, it may just change your life. :-)
"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing." -George Bernard Shaw
Signing off,
Shawn Kenneth Fernandes
Really amazing article. You managed to get a critical point across without losing the attention of your reader. I really love your writing style. Keep at it.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much! Keep reading! I have a lot more in store for my readers.
ReplyDeleteIt's interesting how you used that example about the dyeing of hair. I think that you should write another article on the whole 'Frame of Reference' theory. It will be a really good lesson in acceptance and social tolerance.
ReplyDeleteThat's a good idea. I'll surely think about it for the future articles!
DeleteStunning one, Shawn. You're amazing as always! :-)
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